Welcome to my world, Over 40 & Killing it®! Here’s a little background that led me to write Over 40 and Killing It along with my other books.
I used to get asked on a daily basis, via the Facebook page, e-mails, and random conversations, who is behind Over 40 & Killing it®? It’s me, Kimberly, over 40, and living life to the fullest!
Don’t get me wrong it’s been a bumpy ride. I had it all (great job, beautiful place, a healthy savings account, and a sexy BMW (before Surge my Volvo) before my mid-life crisis kicked my ass into a poverty lifestyle. My self-esteem and confidence were shot to hell. I had none. It’s all in my Over 40 and Killing It® book coming out in late December. You’ll get it right before New Years’ so you can implement some of the strategies that are in the book.
So where did all this fabulousness come from? It came from within. Yes on the outside I had it going on but it’s the inner beauty that makes you desirable. When I went through my mid-life crisis I lost all of the fabulousness. Ladies and Gentlemen, I had it going on. I had the clothes, the car, the money, and that certain je ne sais quoi.
However, I lost it which is why I created Over 40 & Killing it®. It was my online therapy, pictorial, and inspirational diary. I had no one to turn to for encouragement or inspiration, so I had to create a space for myself.
Over 40 & Killing it was not only my therapy but it turned out to be a way for me to meet some incredible ladies and gentlemen who were going through similar situations.
This is why I created the Facebook page so we can all come together and support one another. It is so inspiring to chit-chat with like-minded people.
Just like most people, I am still working on achieving the lifestyle I deserve. My journey will never end. I’m constantly improving myself, learning new things, and going, after all, my lifelong dreams and goals. I will never stop and neither should you! In the book, I talk about all of my trials and tribulations I went through starting with the mid-life crisis.
I stated previously, I didn’t have a support system. I’m an only child and never had any friends in Pittsburgh. I had no one kicking me in the ass saying Kimmy my dear, “you’re messing up” or “what the hell are you doing!” The friends I acquired during my, “crisis” were superficial assholes with no souls or goals, just a bunch of drunks.
What’s interesting looking back I would never have befriended any of them if it wasn’t for my, “crisis.” Our paths would never have crossed. I’m not putting myself above anyone but hanging in bars five nights out the week, gossiping about the people I called my friends, and the backstabbing was never how I rolled. Every one of them has been fully relegated from my life. Oh, it’s all in the book.
My very close friend who doesn’t live in Pittsburgh had no clue my life was spiraling out of control (just hanging out too much, increased drinking, smoking cigarettes, and living beyond my means). I never did drugs.
It’s time to, “Live the Lifestyle YOU deserve!”
During these troubling times, I came up with a mantra that I still use today. I call it my three R’s, I would reflect (on what happened), redirect (got my shit together and focused on what’s important before all hell broke loose) and then reconnected (start putting the pieces back together). This really helped. You need something that will pull you out of that black hole. I go into detail about the black hole I fell into during my mid-life crisis in the book. It wasn’t pretty.
I hope, my podcast, email updates, (go ahead, sign up) and events will get you through the next act of your life with ease, style, and a little bit of fun! Hopefully, you won’t make the same mistakes I did.
No matter what your situation or status may be, tune in daily on Twitter for some inspiration, sarcasm, style suggestions, how to go from poverty to posh, cocktail suggestions (my fav), and more in hopes of helping you get through whatever you’re going through or to just brighten up your day.
Over 40 & Killing It is about helping you to enhance your PPSP (Personal, Professional, Spiritual & Physical) life. The spiritual side is all on you. I’ve been down and out and it’s a horrible place to be, especially when you have no one to turn to. So, if I can help just one person a day with a kind word, a smile, a Facebook post, or my Tweets then that’s all that matters.
One thing I must add before I break out. I’m a keep it real type of person. I will inspire, encourage, and motivate you to no end. However, I say what’s on my mind. I’m brutally honest. If this bothers you, then we may not be a good fit and that’s ok!
Well, that’s it my Dahlings. I hope to see you at an event soon I hope. If not we’ll connect through Zoom. Make sure you check out the podcast.
You can listen to the podcast on iTunes, Spotify, Amazon, or Pandora.
Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.
I want to leave you with an excerpt from my Over 40 and Killing It book…
In a perfect world, we should be able to saunter into our second chapter financially stable, looking and feeling fabulous, and having a significant other, if that’s your choice. Right? The problem with easing into our second chapter for some of us is fear, health problems, loneliness, having no support system, or taking care of an elder parent or relative. If you can relate, raise your hand and say absofuckinglutely.
How would you describe your personal, professional, spiritual, and physical (P.P.S.P.) life right now? Are you stuck in a rut? Unsure of what road to travel? Experiencing depression? In need of a total mind, body, and soul makeover?
Let’s go even further. Are you going to bed dissatisfied with the day’s lack of events or the mind race (racing thoughts that keep you up at night)? Do you take out your to-do list with tears in your eyes asking that one question, “Why can’t I complete just ONE thing on the list?” Do you have mood swings that may hurt the ones you love?
What’s troublesome is, this becomes a cycle. Each day you try extremely hard to write with enthusiasm, on your to-do list, what needs to be done. This can be very grueling, but you try to muddle through it. At times you feel a little excited before going to bed, thinking about the new day ahead with new possibilities. You say to yourself, “Tomorrow will be the day of forgetting yesterday and focusing on today. I will complete my to-do list or at least a couple of things on the list.”
Then it all goes belly up. You toss and turn all night, not being able to go to sleep. The racing thoughts won’t settle down. When things finally settle, and you doze off, in an hour or so, it’s time to get up.
Sounds pretty dismal, doesn’t it? This is life. A rollercoaster of emotional highs and lows. You can get off the rollercoaster at any time when it comes to a stop, or you can stay and continue with the ups and downs of the ride. It’s up to you.
I’ve experienced that emotional rollercoaster. It was my emotional black hole. Every day it felt like I was falling deeper and deeper into a world of self-pity, low self-esteem, and depression which was never-ending.
Until one day, I’ll never forget, I was awakened, not by racing thoughts, but with an awesome dream.
Some of us can never remember our dreams, especially the really good ones. I remembered this one from beginning to end.
Get the book so you can see how it all ends. The pre-orders will begin soon. Get on the email list to find out about the pre-orders.
You can listen to the podcast on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify, or Pandora.
So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back! Peace!
Kimberly Ann Hawes