Will I see him again?

July 26, 2017
Chivalry is not dead! There are still a lot of Gentleman out there!  I had a lunch meeting recently with a very affluent Gentleman!

This Gentleman was tall with a light brown sugar skin complexion, piercing dark brown eyes and a beard to die for!

His gear was impeccable which was the first thing I noticed, then it was the incredible aroma of his cologne which was Bvlgari.

After lunch, I was excited that I secured a client but a little disappointed that our lunch meeting consisted of nothing but industry (real estate, developing/investing, imports & exports) talk! There was a lot of uncomfortable silence and no laughter! I’m not quite sure why I was disappointed. I’m not ready for a relationship or anything casual.

It could have been that I was under the impression from a reliable source he was interested in getting to know me personally which piqued my interest because of his demeanor; power, elegant and he was a true Gentleman.

When we got back to the office pleasantries were exchanged and I went on with my day! This all took place on a Thursday.

Friday afternoon rolls around I received a phone call from the same guy. A dinner invitation was offered! It took me awhile to commit since our lunch meeting was so much fun. I didn’t think I could handle any more fun or excitement that week; smirk, side eye with a lot of sarcasm in that previous sentence.

However, my good friend Jack Daniels reassured me it would be a much better experience with his presence! So I accepted.

This was one of the most incredible, I don’t want to say a date, so let’s go with, “night out” that I’ve had in a long time. First, we went shopping (this was cool but in another post, I’ll give you my thoughts on this). This was his first time visiting Pittsburgh and him being an urbane Gentleman, he wanted to check out our style and social scene!

After shopping we went to dinner, he knew from our conversation and my order at lunch I’m a very picky eater. He made sure the restaurant of choice was to my liking! In my opinion, this was so Gentlemanly, for him not knowing my city, he made it a point to find an eatery for a finicky person.

Our lunch meeting was boring, dull and painful!

Our dinner “thing” was truly amazing! There was witty repartee, laughter, sarcasm, and no industry talk!

It was like night and day! He was so charismatic, engaging, kind and to top it off he looked amazing in his custom-made black suit jacket, muted gray luxury shirt, a pocket square that was so stunning with black dress pants.

His shoe and watch game was off the chain. He was rocking Tom Ford loafers with an Audemars Piguet watch with a brilliant selection of wrist-wear that not only matched his watch but his pocket square. This is what I would call chic and casual all wrapped up in one.

The dinner lasted 3 hours but time was of no importance. He took me home and walked me inside to make sure everything was okay. He kissed me on the cheek and said be ready tomorrow at 10 am (Saturday). In a very seductive and calm voice, he said, “I have something special planned that I know you’re gonna love!” I was floored for two reasons.

First, in the car, we listened to old school hip-hop. No I take that back we both sang and car danced (where only your hands and torso are moving) to songs like Rock Box, Sometimes I rhyme slow, Five Minutes of Funk, then we shut it down with Children’s Story. Second, he was so sure of himself that he made plans for the next day. I love a man who takes charge.

Saturday was amazing. We went to the Carnegie Museum to see the Iris van Herpen: Transforming Fashion Exhibit. It was a fantastic and memorable day.

We had a late lunch at Max & Erma’s another favorite spot of mine, which he loved. It was an early evening since he was heading to Chicago early Sunday for more Monday morning meetings.

He drove me home, walked me inside and he wanted a tour of my house! Fine! I gave him a glass of wine to sip on while sauntering through my house. With another kiss on the cheek, a little idle chit-chat and then he was gone. But his scent lingered for hours.

Will I ever see him again? Who knows? Our business is done. Would it have even worked out? Nope! Unless he decided to move to Pittsburgh or New York City, then that’s a different story! I don’t do long distance relationships (another blog post regarding those at my age).

Did we exchange personal information? Nope! I have his contact information at the office! The one thing among others that I really liked about him, only one social media account that he barely used! How do I know this? Professionally I research all of our clients. I like to get a little background on them to help generate conversation, find out their likes so I can establish common ground.

I never asked him about his social media accounts. He did elaborate on how much he disliked how social media was ruining communication skills and how we interact on a face to face meeting. I loved that response which I didn’t even ask for. It was a just general conversation after witnessing a couple engaged more in their phones than with one another.

I will say this those two days had me thinking.  Am I ready for a relationship or was it nice just to going out with someone new and having some good ole fashion fun?

I labeled this date in my diary as the Reserved who rattled the Recluse!

Lessons learned:

  1. Chivalry isn’t dead!
  2. Gentlemen Rock!
  3. Don’t confuse business with pleasure!
  4. Don’t rush or jump to conclusions too fast!
  5. Gentlemen have patience!
  6. Let the Man be a Man!
  7. Never rush a Gentleman!
  8. Let the Gentleman take charge!
  9. Just go with the flow without labels, whatever happens, happens!
  10. Real Gentlemen are just down right smooth and captivating without it being forced or phony.

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  • Reply Gigi Gaddis July 26, 2017 at 10:42 am

    I truly loved your adventure. We as women have to learn to just have fun with a man. Who knows if it will lead to anything but as a 53 year old divorcee, I’m learning to just have fun. Every date is not about “is this the one”. We have to have fun in the moment while sticking to your principles. But have FUN!! I love your articles. – Gigi

    • Reply Kimberly Ann Hawes July 26, 2017 at 11:40 am

      Yesssss ✋🏼✋🏼✋🏼✋🏼– First I can’t believe you’re 53, you look freaking amazing!

      I turned 50 in December and my knees definitely let me know how old I am!

      I totally agree with you! I had to catch myself for putting a label on what was happening and just go with flow!

      It has been so long since I encountered this I was taken back!

      I have many more experiences to share some funny and that’ll make you shake your head and ask why Kimberly, what the hell were you thinking! 😂

      Thanks so much for the comment!

      Much love to you! 💕💕

  • Reply Gigi July 26, 2017 at 11:49 am

    Girl, Thanks but you look awesome also. Yes the knees and eyes are the first signs that we are maturing. LOL. Im so glad to be apart of your group. You are in my TOP social media and I don’t say that lightly. Looking forward to traveling with the group. Love you Girl! Stay Positive!!

    • Reply Kimberly Ann Hawes July 26, 2017 at 4:11 pm

      Awwwww thank you so much! ✋🏼✋🏼 oh yesss I forgot about the eyes 👀 whew smh!

      I’m so honored and humbled by your social media comment! And you’ve been hanging out with me for awhile! I thank so much for that!

      I’m so glad you like the group! I have to get into a groove with the posts!

      I want to make sure I’m hitting upon topics people care about!

      Yes I can’t wait to put the first travel event together and to meet you!

      Love ya back! You stay positive as well! ✋🏼😊💕💕❤️💕

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